I often look at my children and wonder how their personalities came to be so completely different. Given the same set of choices, the same rules and parameters, they will come to three very different conclusions or points in time. How is it that the same set of genes, replicated to the power of three can produce such incredibly different results?
I’m an only child, there is no one with the same genetic combinations as me, so although I see similarities in other family members and share certain traits with many, there is no one that shares my unique coding – and yes, that’s probably a good thing.
But does the fact that my three share a biological bond make them any more equipped to understand one another or to make the same choices in life? At the moment it seems to make them more likely to hit each other over the head with a Wii remote and blame someone else for the pink highlighter than seems to have found its way onto the curtains.
Watching them interact is like a very local, low budget version of Big Brother. It’s all so completely alien to me and I desperately (and naively) want them all to get on and like each other. If I set them a task they tend to come together briefly, form a hierarchy of sorts and generally achieve some kind of result. Maybe I should give them a weekly shopping budget and a blackboard and leave that to them as well?
It is simply astounding to me that as they grow and their personalities develop they become so very different. My arsenal for dealing with fraught situations is having to be constantly updated – as the Boy Wonder comes up to his ninth birthday I’m going to need to download BoysV9 to stand any chance of understanding him and I’m hoping it comes with a laser gun and light saber add on or I’m completely scuppered. I’m also due an upgrade to GirlsV6 very soon and my YoungerGirlV4 appears to be very buggy and regularly crashes on me, causing hours of instability and problems – it’s probably suffering from a virus.
I guess the only answer is to sit back and enjoy the ride – can’t wait till they’re all old enough to vote….