You know those times when you know something isn’t quite right?

You’ve taken advice from someone more qualified, and their way of doing things seems to be working, or half working, but it’s not quite what you expected?

And the thing is that it’s not even you that’s directly affected. It’s your child, and they can’t always tell you what’s going on in their head.

It’s easy to ignore the nagging doubts. You’re busy or tired, you’ve got other children and a job, and a house and a million other things on your mind.  The medication is kind of keeping the symptoms at bay;  he’s just being bloody minded or downright naughty.

And then you STOP.

You realise that this is not your child.

You tune in to your inner most thoughts and you berate yourself for not noticing sooner.

And you take a positive step, you speak up, and you insist on a change…..

And what a change! Just 24 short hours later your child races up to you, full of familiar smiles and warmth.

Your shame is diluted by the relief that you bothered to stop, trusted your intuition, believed that there was an alternative.

Today I am relieved that I trusted my intuition.  For the last month the Boy Wonder has been miserable, tetchy, aggressive and sullen – his hayfever symptoms barely held at bay by medication that was creating a raft of unwelcome side effects.  A 10 minute review with his doctor and a change of prescription have gifted him the best day he’s had in weeks – I just hope I haven’t spoken too soon.

And for anyone who suffers but can’t take medication, or finds it’s not enough, the doc’s recommendation for a short burst of relief is an efficacious concoction of hot water, cider vinegar and local honey – hold your nose and throw it back!

Do you have any hayfever remedies?  I’d be really interested in hearing what works for you….

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22 thoughts on “Intuition

  • June 24, 2010 at 4:41 pm

    Well done you & your tummy for speaking up. That is one of the most difficult aspects of parenting I think, the not knowing. Relying on what you are told, especially by lads can be very hit & miss – bless them!

  • June 24, 2010 at 4:51 pm

    My terrible hayfever was cured (or coincidentally stopped) about six years ago. I did anuloma viloma, alternate nostril breathing (a yoga technique), every day. It took a few months, but I haven’t had hayfever since.

  • June 24, 2010 at 6:22 pm

    A daily spoon of local honey is my only tip, it has the pollen from the area in it and that is why it works, I am told:) My toddler suffers from bad hayfever but, wouldn’t you know it, won’t take honey for me lol. Glad it worked out ok in the end, I hope this is the one that works for him:) Jen.

  • June 24, 2010 at 6:26 pm

    Glad that your doctor listened to you and your concerns. Great news for BW 🙂 Hope it lasts. The alternative “drink” sounds vile!!!

  • June 24, 2010 at 10:09 pm

    I am a great believer in mothers intuition. I have always followed mine and I have 2 boys here to show for it, I nearly didnt. Well done for making a stand

  • June 25, 2010 at 6:51 am

    That’s very good news. Pleased he is a lot better. Saw how concerned you were on twitter. A mother’s intuition can never be beaten!

  • June 25, 2010 at 6:59 am

    Thanks Julia – you’re right, sometimes we have to rely on other people to care for our children but it doesn’t mean we should keep our eye off the ball. It was a good reminder as well of how horrible a condition hayfever is – I’ve spoken to lots of adults this week who’ve lived with it for a lifetime and can attest to that…. x

  • June 25, 2010 at 7:00 am

    Wow Sandy! I’m definitely going to look that up and have a go – thanks! x

  • June 25, 2010 at 7:04 am

    We did that for a couple of years and I’d say it does ease it in milder sufferers Jen. Helps if you start before the pollen season really gets going as well – sadly for BW it’s just not enough. Shame that yours won’t take it – what about if it were spread on toast, or hidden somehow? x

  • June 25, 2010 at 7:05 am

    Thanks lovely and yes, even the doc admitted that the drink was vile (hold your nose!) but effective in an emergency! x

  • June 25, 2010 at 7:07 am

    I’ve been reading your boy’s stories recently – amazing stuff! I think this is why I’m so anti the Gina Ford style guide books – they detract from your ability to trust yourself. Thanks MM x

  • June 25, 2010 at 7:10 am

    Thanks Rosie – it was really horrible, no one wants to believe that their child is badly behaved but the combination of the condition itself and the side effects were having a terrible affect on him. Fingers crossed that the change is a permanent one!

  • June 25, 2010 at 8:14 am

    See? You’re not a horrible mother. Far from it. I am fast coming to the conclusion that my children’s bad behaviour is being caused by my hayfever medication related grumpiness. Would rather have itchy eyes and happy house than everyone yelling at each other.

  • June 25, 2010 at 2:50 pm

    I wouldn’t be at all surprised – it makes you so tired, without completely removing the symptoms…. I think Sandy’s breathing technique looks really interesting, I’m going to look it up!!

  • June 26, 2010 at 12:06 pm

    oh excellent news! You must be so pleased to have him back to normal. Well done for trusting yourself and not brushing your instincts under the carpet!

  • June 29, 2010 at 9:42 am

    Oh well done you! I am so pleased! It does pull you up short when you realise you’ve only been listening with your ears not your heart. We had that with Sensitive Soul and the sudden realisation that his floppiness and breathlessness were asthma, awful time. Last week’s ticks were a slap to me too…I must listen to my child (written 100 times in best handwriting).
    Well done for listening to your instincts and for talking to your doc (sounds like a very sensible chap!) x

  • June 29, 2010 at 10:15 am

    I’m a big fan of local honey – hayfever is utterly horrid and anything that can help is great

    Other big discovery is you can get a saline spray (calpol do one) which is great for smaller children (better than the saline drops) and fine to use if pregnant / breastfeeding

  • June 30, 2010 at 7:25 pm

    Your poor son, it’s so debilitating and not taken seriously enough. Glad he’s feeling much better. x

  • June 30, 2010 at 9:13 pm

    Thanks Heather – I’m not saying he’s perfect (!) but he’s definitely the boy I know and love again x

  • June 30, 2010 at 9:15 pm

    Oh poor boy! It’s hard isn’t it? We’re always so busy, yadda yadda yadda and it’s easy to lose focus – well done to you too, and beautiful penmanship x

  • June 30, 2010 at 9:16 pm

    Thanks Hannah, I’ll look out for the spray – local honey has definitely helped in the past but this seems to be a particularly bad year. x

  • June 30, 2010 at 9:16 pm

    Thanks Nova – you’re right, and to be honest it’s not something I’ve really taken seriously in the past. That’s changed now, thankfully x

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