This morning the 5yo gouged the face of the 4yo. Luckily we’d recently cut off all her nails so all she left were red marks that quickly faded.
An hour later, en route to that there London, the 4yo retaliated, cutting the 5yo’s lip and leaving two brilliant red crescents in the 5yo’s hand – sadly we hadn’t got to the 4yo’s nails in quite such a timely manner.
The 8yo is getting better, but there are also times when his tantrums come crashing through the barricades…
Often these outbursts of REALLY bad behaviour occur just before the child in question comes down with some lurgy or other, and I’m learning to be more considered in my responses. Of course, now I’m in danger of making the assumption that all of my children are ill 50 times a week but you’ve got to get to that balanced point somehow haven’t you?
Being half term, we’re all conscious of giving our children the time and space to relax, shake things down a little and have some free time. I don’t want to be spending the day saying ‘No’ and I’ve worked out that there is barely any difference in the tale telling and tears when I’ve spent the day shouting myself hoarse as compared with a complete laissez faire attitude where I basically ignore ALL the bad stuff and let them get on with it.
With three children I predict an increasing number of times where I’ll just have to let things go. It’s all too easy to get caught up in something and cling to it doggedly without really thinking it through clearly. I think I’d like to spend more time looking for the stuff that matters….