Today’s Blognonymous post is encouraging us all to shrug off the cloak of embarrassment and talk about sex before the 9pm watershed. It’s a tricky subject but I’m sure it’s one that will resonate with many.
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6 months. That’s the longest we’ve gone without “doing it”. On more than one occasion.
Since we had our first son (4 years) it’s probably averaged out at once per quarter. Once a month if we’re lucky.
Over the past few months we’ve managed to up it to once a week. What’s changed? I told my hubby to persevere. You see, my sex drive has totally gone. I need a lot of warming up before I fancy the idea at all.
But we’ve been here before, so I’m not quite sure how long this one will last.
Women say you can fake it. But you can’t fake lubrication. And that doesn’t happen if you’re not in the mood. I think if I could just say to my husband “I’m fine with a quicky, get the K-Y out” all would be fine.
You see, I don’t need to have an orgasm for it to be okay. I quite like the physical intimacy.
But I can’t bring myself to say that. I don’t want to bruise his ego. If a man doesn’t come what’s the point? They assume it’s the same for you.
I have found myself thinking on many occasions “I wouldn’t mind at all if I had no more sex for the rest of my life”. It really wouldn’t bother me. And then I catch myself, and wonder whether that is really okay? I’m in my 30s. But it’s the truth.
There’s just so much to do, it all ends up feeling like a chore.
But I read the other day a woman’s sexual drive peaks again around 45/50. Did I say “read”? Actually I saw it in an episode of CSI when one investigator was explaining the meaning of “cougar” to another.
That gave me a bit of hope.